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Problems toilet training

My daughter is gifted (in my opinion) and despite advanced development in most areas we've had huge problems toilet training. We started at 2 and now at 4.4 there are still frequent accidents (wee and poo). She knows how and has gone through periods of managing it herself quite well but at other times we are having to give frequent reminders to avoid multiple daily accidents (she doesn't like her play to be interrupted and perhaps believes she can override the need-is very secretive when she has had an accident because then she'll need to take the time to clean up, doesn't seem bothered by being uncomfortable). We have tried everything. My son toilet trained himself at 2.5 yrs and at almost 3 has now overtaken her. Did anyone else have problems in this area and if so PLEASE share what worked for you. In our mind, the next step is seeing a child pshycologist as we have tried everything else. She starts school next year and I don't want her to be the girl who smells of poo!
Date: 17-April-2012 @ 2:18 pm
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Author: threebee

Re: Problems toilet training

Hi,
Was hoping my grim experience would be of use to someone.
Our daughter, now 5, refused to use the loo till 3.5yrs. Then, after 6 months of heavenly cooperation, she started pooing her pants quite consistently. It was evident that unlike her 'cooperation poos' these later 'pants poos' were really dry - like she'd been holding them in a long time.
I guessed what was going on - being a very strong willed, non-compliant kid, she was trying to dictate her body. I explained to her that - like it or not - she must answer her bodies needs. Still she didn't give in for a few weeks.
Exactly as your daughter, she didn't want to stop what she was doing for something as trivial and boring as the loo. Even now, trivial things like eating and getting dressed are often avoided. But at least she's surrendered to poos. Mostly.
It's certainly not reason to doubt her intelligence. Our girl was assessed as over the 99%ile.
Date: 14-June-2012 @ 2:29 pm
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Author: Celeste

Re: Problems toilet training

Thank you so much Celeste! You brought a tear to my eye, at last someone who has experienced what I'm going through! This is our problem to a tee, the dry poos, attitude etc. was there anything else that you can recommend I do other than the chat? I did think of that myself about a month ago and spoke to her about it without any improvement. We do have our first session with a child physcologist next week and because their approach will differ depending upon whether or not she is in fact gifted, they've requested that we begin treatment with an IQ assessment. It'll be good to know at last where we stand and to be prepared with the paperwork for school next year.
Date: 15-June-2012 @ 12:21 pm
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Author: threebee

Re: Problems toilet training

Hi there! Excuse me not getting back - really busy time. How did you go with the assessment (rather clinical, yukky term but oh well)??
Hope your girl has decided bodily functions are tolerable. The other thing my girl has often resisted is drinking water - which doesn't help. She's slowly coming round. She is more likely to drink when she sees me drinking - as long as I just do it "spontaneously" and keep my mouth shut. It seems that a sure fire way to stop her doing anything is to ASK her to do it!

That makes her sound like a horror of a kid, BUT - and I'm sure you could say the same - the flip side of her 'autonomy' is the ability & inclination to offer incredibly beautiful, loving and genuine comments and observations.

It's like one day you're living with a delinquent - next day you're living with the Dalai Lama!

I'm starting to realize the real important thing is to look after yourself! Us parents are the ones with the "survival challenge".
These kids are incredibly resilient - all they really need is our love (time & ears) & they'll turn out fine.
Date: 14-July-2012 @ 12:14 am
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Author: Celeste

Re: Problems toilet training

Hi Celeste, thanks for responding.

No improvement with the toileting yet I'm afraid. I love your tips though, our daughters sound very similar, especially the bit about making sure I don't ASK her to do something! Such a minefield! Again though, what a delight she is the next minute (or sometimes not until the next day).

The assessment was not what I had expected. 4 weeks on and I still don't have the paperwork (!!!) but on the phone I was told that my daughter tested in the average range for her age. I want to read the report to make sense of whether this result is accurate. My profession is education so I wouldn't have agreed to do the testing unless I believed she was significantly different to her peers. But now I'm so confused! Is it possible to have a child that reaches milestones really early (could read her name at 13 months, up to 6 word sentences at 18 months etc etc) but then not be gifted? I've really lost some confidence over this and now I have no avenues for help re the toilet issue. Back to the drawing board!

A great reminder about looking after ourselves. So hard to do when she also has 2 younger siblings and I'm chronically sleep deprived! I notice that your posts always come at night so make sure you get enough sleep yourself!
Date: 17-July-2012 @ 11:41 am
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Author: threebee

Re: Problems toilet training

we had toilet training issues and my boy was not trained till 5.5 years. peaditrician was no use, continence clinic had no advice. the only thing that worked was this elimination diet http://fedup.com.au/
Date: 29-August-2012 @ 9:40 pm
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Author: helohara

Re: Problems toilet training

5.5! Oh you poor thing! We are already additive free but yes, wanting to go gluten free now and then if still probs, try the full elimination diet. Dietary changes have been more to address my hyperactive ADHD-style younger child's behaviour but it may well help to resolve my daughter's issues too. We can only hope :)
Date: 29-August-2012 @ 9:53 pm
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Author: threebee

Re: Problems toilet training

Exactly as your daughter, she didn't want to stop what she was doing for something as trivial and boring as the loo. Even now, trivial things like eating and getting dressed are often avoided. But at least she's surrendered to poos. Mostly.
It's certainly not reason to doubt her intelligence. Our girl was assessed as over the 99%ile.[img]http://www.forexchartingsoftware.info/pc.gif[/img]
Date: 18-September-2012 @ 3:39 pm
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Author: kohuiure

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