We have a 5 y/o gifted girl. We have such fun with her, and her passion for life and learning has a deep influence on us. She is deeply loving and affectionate. But oh... It's so hard. Could I list the challenges?
Drama Queen in the extreme (although getting better)
Opinionated, argumentative, defiant, stubborn...
And what's worse, she often has a valid point.
Using the G word has become something to avoid, always met with derision and dismissal.
She has such a thirst for knowledge and exploration that we are really worried school will be a big dissapointment to her... And so far, yes, it is.
Not one single teacher from her school is attending the National conference on G E, which is right here next month.
She gets "time out" almost daily for not towing the line... Of course that's considered a reflection on her (a 5 year old) not the school's approach.
The only schools that have policies of catering for G students are too expensive on our income.
Sigh... I wish we could just enjoy having this special element in our lives - I wish our girl could just benefit from it -
Why does our society turn being "gifted" into a problem?!
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Because adults haven't dealt with their own issues of inferiority. Because they don't recognise that it's the gifted children of the past who invented the iPhone they love, the iPad they love, the aeroplane they take their holidays on... and so on. Because gifted children are hard work- yes they are- because they won't conform.
You will really need to work at this one with your girl's teachers. At the end of this blog post, there's a list of characteristics of gifted kids which you could print and give to the teacher, ticking off the ones you've observed in your child. Just wafting the word 'gifted' under people's noses isn't enough, as you've found out- you need evidence which they can confirm with their own eyes.
Once you get the teacher to acknowledge that she's possibly gifted, approach it as though you are trying to make life easier for the teacher! Teachers are overworked and stressed and need all the help they can get. Offer information about dealing with gifted kids and about the sort of teachers that gifted kids do best with. I've got a couple more posts that might help here:
'Hoagies' and 'Miraca Gross' web searches will lead you to a LOT of other information for the teacher. I particularly recommend Miraca Gross' article 'Small Poppies'.
It IS hard. I do wish you the very best of luck.
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Our boy who is now 8 is the same. Hes fine at home apart from being utterly stubborn but school, well thats another story.
Daily calls from the teachers, constant time outs, "can you come and pick him up" and then you have to deal with the walk shame through the school with parents starting at you!
We are getting him tested in April as we are at our wits end!
Even if he is gifted, things wont change much I will feel so much better knowing its not a disability like autism as that can have a worse affect on obtaining jobs etc later in life.
Just make sure you spend as much family time together as you can and reward good behaviour at school.
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