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accelerated, but too much?

MY 6 year old last year was accelerated in 4th term from preprimary to year one. He has now started in year 2 in a mixed 2/3 class. Academically he sits at the top of the year 2 class and is capable of some year 3 work but is very nervous/anxious at achool and teary before going saying he finds it too hard and too much. He used to love going to school, though found the work easy and not challenging. The point of the acceleration was to keep him interested and loving learning, but it seems to have had the reverse effect- are we putting too much expectation on him? He is an absolute perfectionist. My husband and I are wondering if he were in the 1/2 class that he would feel less expectation and therefore enjoy the work more and take on more challenging tasks as he feels comfortable without the stress of expectation. Can anyone offer advice? We are torn between supporting him through this to build resilience and wondering if we have created this negative & too stressful environment for him. Any advice would be great.
Date: 12-February-2009 @ 12:41 pm
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Author: vicplum

Re: accelerated, but too much?

Our 6 year old son was in the same boat last year. He was getting bored at school, and refused to go most days, crying, and becoming withdrawn. So we changed schools, and after assessing him, the principal put him in a yr 2/3 class. He now does mostly year 2 work, but in the areas he is gifted, works with the year 3s in his class. This way, he is being stimulated when needed, but not pressured into doing work that is beyond him in areas he is among the average for his age. He now loves going to school, and even wants to do extra-curricular work at home (which we encourage). He is top of the class in maths with the year 3's, and top of the class for reading with the year 2's, and on par with his other subjects. In fact, because he is being stimulated in the subject he loves, it has encouraged him to do better in the subjects he has been struggling with (writing and public speaking). Teacher/Parent communication is PARAMOUNT for finding a learning program that suits our children. Above all, listen to your child. If they say the work is too hard, then it is. Find out what they excel at, by talking to their last year teacher, and by watching them at home. By encouraging slow and steady growth in these areas, it will encourage confidence in the others. (That has been my experience, anyway) It may also help to talk to a teacher that has experience with gifted children. The evaluation from your psychologist will also be helpful.
Date: 16-February-2009 @ 8:54 pm
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Author: missyboop

Re: accelerated, but too much?

Is there anything wrong with your child being top of the class of the previous year group? Why was he grade skipped? Was it in the recommendation of a WA 'educational consultant' or the school? A child will never learn when stressed and not happy as a 6 year old in a class with 8/9 year olds. There is much research out of the Netherlands (see Hoogenvand , L, Gifted Child Quarterley 2009) that BOYS who are grade skipped have more trouble being socially accepted than girls. Maybe its just Big Fish Little Pond Effect - see how it goes for the year. My 6 year old last year was recommended to do the same thing, and HATED it was too stressed as it has never occurred to him that kids go to a class to learn stuff. My perfect scenario for him is that he is accelerated by the teacher but can remain with his age peers - hope this helps. Grade skipping is simply an easy way for the teacher not to have to deal with 'accelerating' a child in a class of their age peers. Let him guide you to what he wants, good luck.
Date: 10-February-2010 @ 9:24 pm
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Author: looneyhousehold

Re: accelerated, but too much?

HI,
I think you need also teach him not in academic field but in emotional to let him feel that he need to be challenge also in the things he need to do in this crucial world..even though accelerated he needs to be wise as well...He still have more challenge and and problems to encounter.





Date: 22-November-2010 @ 11:47 pm
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Author: cuinee

Re: accelerated, but too much?

Hi, this is just a consideration. I have seen it happen with friends whose kids are accelerated (as mine was asked to). Please remember that although they are academically gifted, this does not mean that emotionally, socially or psychologically, they have caught up. My friends son had the same problem and was accelerated into grade 2 from Kindergarten. The following year, he stayed in Grade 2 where the teacher tutored to him. He was far happier after this.
Date: 8-March-2011 @ 11:23 am
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