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I have a very alert!!! child. She is our first and from the very beginning she was different. My husband and I didn't realize this being she was our first but knowing she craved doing things we put her in as many activities as possible. My problem is now she is 9 1/2. While she does wonderful at school and is in the gifted program she refuses to do anything else, for fear of failing. She tries very little and when she is given a task she has to try at she folds quickly wanting to give up. We don't know what to do and are having a difficult time getting her to work outside her box. Any suggestions would be helpful...
Date: 17-June-2008 @ 12:29 am
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Author: momamgold

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Date: 30-June-2008 @ 10:44 pm
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I think I speak for most when I say she is doing too much too soon. She is 9 1/2 - she has decades to solve the problems of the universe, let her do it at her own pace, or trust me, she will loose interest in ALL areas of schooling.
When introducing a new concept to my 7 year old (who fortunately only has to be told something once and is an expert at it) I reward his attempt, not the result. For example, if it wasn't addition, he didn't want to do it, so I gave him one or two multiplication or subtraction problems to solve a week. I gave him computer time if he tried to solve the equation - he didn't have to get it right, or even get an answer, the point was he tried. Subsequently, he moved from 'R maths' to 'Yr3 Maths' in a matter of weeks. The school was subsequently able to improve his handwriting aswell (does your daughter have that too - thinks faster than she can write?)
Good Luck, I hope this helps

Date: 30-June-2008 @ 10:50 pm
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Author: missyboop

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I think I speak for most when I say she is doing too much too soon. She is 9 1/2 - she has decades to solve the problems of the universe, let her do it at her own pace, or trust me, she will loose interest in ALL areas of schooling.
When introducing a new concept to my 7 year old (who fortunately only has to be told something once and is an expert at it) I reward his attempt, not the result. For example, if it wasn't addition, he didn't want to do it, so I gave him one or two multiplication or subtraction problems to solve a week. I gave him computer time if he tried to solve the equation - he didn't have to get it right, or even get an answer, the point was he tried. Subsequently, he moved from 'R maths' to 'Yr3 Maths' in a matter of weeks. The school was subsequently able to improve his handwriting aswell (does your daughter have that too - thinks faster than she can write?)
Good Luck, I hope this helps

Date: 30-June-2008 @ 10:51 pm
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Author: missyboop

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Thanks Missyboop! This is great advice. My son (also 7) is like this too in that he has a huge fear of failure, and gives up very quickly when he is offered the opportunity to try or do something outside his box. It pervades his whole existence and he therefore underachieves in these areas. I will take your advice and reward the attempt rather than the result. My son also has fine motor probems affecting his handwriting and drawing. He thinks faster than he can write or draw and hence gets very frustrated and gives up, especially when his writing and drawing is not "neat" enough. I'm not fussy on neatness, but I know his teacher is, so I guess that's where he gets that from. Any suggestions on this front? Thanks in advance!

Date: 11-July-2008 @ 8:23 am
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Author: samko5501

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I explained the situation first to his teacher. Luckily she had seen this type of thing before, and being in year 1, they concentrate more on the work being done than how neat it is - at least in his classroom. She gave me a worksheet every few days to help him start forming his letters more legibly, and working with spaces between words, full stops and capitals in the right places and such. We are still in the process of him learning, but his handwriting has improved. He will get there in his own time.
Also, I told Finn to keep a piece of scrap paper next to him to write his ideas down, then copy them slowly onto the worksheets at school. I don't know if he is doing this, but it makes sense, especially for older children.
Good luck.

(shcoolexpress.com has some great worksheets to print out, on all subjects, all ages. We make booklets together over the holidays to keep him interested in his favorite subjects, then put them in his homework folder for next term)

Date: 16-July-2008 @ 12:28 pm
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