Gifted boy

A Beautiful Child No-One Wants to Take On


Hello every one out there!
Are you all tired of the I’m sorry we cant take him on because he is still too young!
Or the broken promises of “yes we will look after your child academics”
Or the “your so lucky your child is gifted”- when only to find out no one wants to take him on as they don’t get grants for kids like this and they get grants for the others on the other side of the scale.Which whom also need the support!!

We have gone through 3 schools with all the same broken promises in the last year!And they have all been private may I add
At the moment i drive approx, 30 km to school to and another back and pay big $$$ for the attention my child needs
He is 5 this year and is reading grade3 ,maths grade2 but hand writing a terrible prep as expected with his age

His new teacher will not let him go ahead and is now picking on the child and trying to bring him down as it all seems to difficult
I am so sick and tried of these wonderful teachers whom wish to take up teaching- if they like kids so much maybe they should stay in childcare
and leave the teaching up to someone whom is really dedicated!!
But aren’t we all full of the new rubbish in society”ITS NOT MY JOB”

And wow whats wrong with your child??

***The quote of the week for me would have to be **”the only thing wrong with your child is the maturity”
That came from the principle himself as I walked down the hall in the school

Well that’s it in a nut shell!
They always can fall back on the maturity!

Forgive that special person in your life for being so bright!!
Is not the child’s fault he has a disability in society for the maturity on the age??
But has the disability in society for being gifted!

I have now come to the conclusion, my child is bored!They refuse to simulate him! he is not a rude child but active!Sensitive and caring and the schools have no place for kids that are gifted!!
Unless you can afford big dollars!

I wish to sadly challenge anyone on this matter
And wish every one out there with a special child all the luck in the world!
Our children are classed as special needs kids and with out their grants$$$ No one really wants to take them on
Besides its all about business!!
Just business!!
Date: 27-November-2005 @ 2:25 pm
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Author: Mrs E

Re: A Beautiful child no-one wants to take on???

We have also been to 3 schools and are now in the right spot.

Every school said they had a gifted program.

Every school said that they differentiated within the classroom.
All schools were private.
Each move has cost us a small fortune.
Only the last school actually has done what it said it will do.

At the first school, everyone was incredibly lovely but had no skills in gifted education. After ignoring my pleas for stimulation at kindergarten (my daughter self taught reading at 3 but the teacher thought I was an over-zealous mother) , they realised she was entering prep reading at a grade 3 level. Then they didn’t know what to do with her and made her sit though the teaching of the alphabet even though she had been writing for 2 years. They suggested some extra worksheets if she finished her work quickly. She was bored beyond belief.

On the advice of a friend who is a child psychologist, we went to a child psychologist and got an IQ test and a strong recommendation for acceleration, which the school refused to do, insisting that extra work sheets should do the trick.

School number 2 – They let us accelerate the grade as recommended and made lots of promises but once she had caught up the whole of the following grade in 2 months,didn’t know what to do next. They felt the job should be done. Unfortunately my daughter’s educational thirst wasn’t aware of this. So she went into the next grade level and swiftly got bored again. To compound the problem, they also placed her in a classroom with a teacher renowned for her dislike of bright girls and putting them down. This teacher was old fashioned and highly punitive in teaching style. My daughter stopped producing any work at all or speaking up in class for fear of standing out and getting any attention from this teacher ( and who could blame her). Nonetheless, eventually her sense of social justice got the better of her and she stood up for her class mates by telling us what the teacher was doing to some of the children in terms of punishment. She also bravely told the principal in her own words. All that she described was found to be accurate and the teacher received counselling and has now been fired. Unfortunately, before she was fired they left my daughter in the classroom , where not only was my daughter now bored academically, but a target for having done the right thing. The teacher promptly singled her out and threatened her. My daughter then freaked out and started school refusing.

Back to the psychologist … for round 2 and to try and work out what the hell was going on . We then did the best thing – we had a series of assessments done by a child psychologist in conjunction with a gifted educationalist. They then came up with an educational plan with a recommendation to move class (or move school if this was not achieved). The gifted educationalist then met with the school and argued for the plan to implemented on our behalf. This was better than us doing it ourselves because, as a teacher, she knew how to talk to the school and what to expect. She and the psychologist were shocked at the school’s reluctance to take their recommendations and advised that there must be some additional issues at the school impacting the school’s approach ( which it turned out there were!). Those additional issues, once revealed made it impossible for us to stay there without risk to our daughter’s emotional health and so we decided to move her again.

At that point, and in despair at the education system , we asked our advocate for a school recommendation which has turned out to be the best decision we have made. She told us of a school with which she has worked well in the past, which is vey nurturing and which would suit us – a private school with a real program for the gifted.

If you are struggling, I would recommend getting in a gifted educationalist to do an educational plan, as we have done. They run all the academic tests that the school would do and recommend a course of action. This makes it very hard for the school to say no. You also have all the information you need to make your case. Our daughter ended up having her literacy assessed at that of an 11 year old and she is only in grade 2 so we needed additional extension (even after having skipped a grade) of which we were not aware.

Within days of moving to the new school our daughter is now flying. She has made friends straight away, she has lots of peers ( because the school has a proper program so there are others like her) and they have been very flexible with the approach to teaching her. She has rediscovered reading having not read a book in 6 months. She is now producing art and writing that is so beautiful. She is now happy – which is the greatest gift of all.

We decided to get the advocate, and it has worked a miracle in a short time. The best thing that she said to us was that sometimes it can take a few schools to find the right spot – with gifted kids it is not always easy to find that place so be prepared to move around. We had to swallow our pride to make the last move but I thank God now that we did because our younger child is a lot less conventional than our older one ( looks to be gifted ) and the wrong school would seek to crush her exuberant and somewhat eccentric spirit!

She also gave me lots of reading about Dabrowski’s work which helped me make sense of the whole sorry mess and has assisted beyond belief with both my kids.

I hope this goes some way to (a) helping you feel there are others out there going through similar issues; and (b) a means to address your issues (i.e. using an advocate who is a gifted education list to make a case for how your child needs to be supported).

Good luck!
Date: 2-January-2006 @ 3:12 am
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Author: ezipper

Re: A Beautiful child no-one wants to take on???

I hope all is still going well for your daughter. How did you go about contacting your gifted specialist?Date: 10-February-2006 @ 12:34 am
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Author: annette

Re: A Beautiful child no-one wants to take on???


Thanks for your lovely email!Its actually my son, have changed school and absolutely NOT moving him anymore!!Seen professional help they have suggested to move him .But I also believe gifted or NOT they are still kids and we can not keep moving the child! His performance academics has gone down in standard and not really finishing his work!
Sad but will NOT move him anymore!! Professional help wasn’t that brilliant as teachers always say one thing and do another!! Very disappointed with the education system but so very glad someone had a win!! I wish your daughter all the very best!And to everyone else whom will go through this terrible process,
After seeking professional help so many times I now am looking at professional help for my son at the other end.Sometimes its easier to give help from these professionals BUT they don’t have to live with the child and them being upset in not finding friends as the child is changing schools.

Really where do you draw the line???

A child happiness should be the most important factor.

Please learn from my mistake!!
Date: 24-February-2006 @ 1:15 pm
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Author: Visitor

Re: A Beautiful child no-one wants to take on???


Thanks for your lovely email! Its actually my son, have changed school and absolutely NOT moving him anymore!!Seen professional help they have suggested to move him .But I also believe gifted or NOT they are still kids and we can not keep moving the child! His performance academics has gone down in standard and not really finishing his work!
Sad but will NOT move him anymore!! Professional help wasn’t that brilliant as teachers always say one thing and do another!! Very disappointed with the education system but so very glad someone had a win!! I wish your daughter all the very best!And to everyone else whom will go through this terrible process,
After seeking professional help so many times I now am looking at professional help for my son at the other end.Sometimes its easier to give help from these professionals BUT they don’t have to live with the child and them being upset in not finding friends as the child is changing schools.

Really where do you draw the line???

A child happiness should be the most important factor.

Please learn from my mistake!!
Date: 24-February-2006 @ 1:15 pm
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Author: MRS E

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I agree that happiness is most important and you should minimise forum shopping . Our daughter is very social/outgoing and has found making friends easy with every change. We have not had to contend with a concern on social issues. In fact, she says she wouldn’t have so many good friends without having been to the 3 schools. We keep in touch with many families from the 2 old schools ( and have overly large birthday parties).

Having said that, though, we are now there to stay at this school come hell or highwater. Luckily this one seems to have it together (although it did come recommended).

Your local gifted association should be helpful in finding an educationalist to work with in your area. CHIP or the Krongold Centre in Melbourne could also help you if you called them.
Date: 24-February-2006 @ 10:32 pm
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Author: me

Re: A Beautiful child no-one wants to take on???


I agree that happiness is most important and you should minimise forum shopping . Our daughter is very social/outgoing and has found making friends easy with every change. We have not had to contend with a concern on social issues. In fact, she says she wouldn’t have so many good friends without having been to the 3 schools. We keep in touch with many families from the 2 old schools ( and have overly large birthday parties).

Having said that, though, we are now there to stay at this school come hell or highwater. Luckily this one seems to have it together (although it did come recommended).

Your local gifted association should be helpful in finding an educationalist to work with in your area. CHIP or the Krongold Centre in Melbourne could also help you if you called them.
Date: 24-February-2006 @ 10:33 pm
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Re: A Beautiful child no-one wants to take on???

I have a child who is 9 turning 10. She has been accelerated, has changed school 7 times, has been home-schooled twice and has been on distance education. Her eldest sister has also been accelerated and changed schools 5 times.

My daughters also have no social issues are popular and make friends easily where-ever they go. A couple of the moves have been because of moving house, the rest because the schools were not suitable for their educational needs. All the moves that were not house moves have been at their request.

Social needs for a social butterflies can be filled at just about any school as there are lots of great kids in our schools. Education needs however are another story! My daughters believe that they go to school to learn, if they are not learning they would rather stay home or try to find some place else.

They keep in contact with friends from all schools through the internet, at dancing, tennis, netball, after school, on the weekends and on holidays. They have friends everywhere because they know so many people.

The youngest has just started a new school as she wanted to spend her last year in primary at school, she was being educated at home last year and she has already settled in, made a great group of friends and feels like a part of the school community.

Moving schools has helped them cope with the Education System as every change is a challenge so at least something is a challenge. Although by high school they have both said they would hope to not have to move any more. High school is easier to deal with for gifted kids because you don’t have to spend all day with the same teacher.

There are children who are not as socially as able and outgoing. My youngest son is at home on Distance Education because he cannot tolerate school at all. Too much noise, too much bullying, too much neglect, too much aggression, too much yelling and they don’t teach him anything that he doesn’t already know. Its all too much – it makes him suffer physical issues.

Every child is different, even children in the same family are different and gifted children are no different. No one method is suitable for all – you have to go with what works for your individual child.
Date: 26-February-2006 @ 10:57 pm
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Author: Jolanda

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Hello. I would love to know which school you eventually found for your daughter. My daughter just turned three. She taught herself to read, as we recently found out,and has been talking in full sentences for more than a year. She has the numeracy skills of a 7 year old, and extraordinary motor skills. I find myself being almost attacked by other parents when my child’s evidently extraordinary abilities make their children look almost subnormal, and accused of hothousing her, which I have not done at all. I am desperate for her to have a good school experience. I was also identified as ‘gifted’ at the age of three, and by the time I started school was reading at the age of a 12 year old. By grade 7 I was ready to sit my HSC, but was not allowed to. i rotted away in school for the next six years and I believe my potential was dramatically reduced through my boredom and frustration over those years. I hope my daughter will not suffer the same. Are you in NSW? Is there truly any point sending a gifted child to school if the school does not cater for her?
Date: 6-March-2006 @ 9:49 pm
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Author: Helena

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If you are in Sydney, I would highly recommend that you check out McDonald College in North Strathfield they have a full gifted stream from kindergarten and has been a god send for us. We actually moved from Melbourne to go to it!Date: 28-March-2006 @ 7:26 am
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Author: Renee

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I’m going through the same situation. My daughter’s Grade 1 teacher supported accelerating her but because she was showing signs of separation anxiety when I dropped her off at school the Principal basically said she was too emotionally unstable to go up a grade and that school is not just for learning but is a social experience as well! I disagree, while it’s VERY important that they get along with their peers (which she has always done) school is primarily for LEARNING and getting an education!
She is now in Grade Two and reads and writes at levels beyond her peers. She is bored and frustrated and dislikes school at times.

The school has program in place that supports students with learning difficulties but not students who are gifted. Go figure.

I don’t know where to go from here.
Date: 6-March-2007 @ 4:46 pm
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